A Male Chastity Guide – Myths and Facts

Hopefully, you’ve have decided that Male Chastity is for you and you are ready to take the next steps! If you have, you will find this male chastity guide Beneficial to getting started on this pleasurable path. You and your partner will be pleased with the results. Believe me!


The First thing that you are going to want to do is make sure that you understand what exactly this lifestyle is all about. Many people assume that it is anti-sex, and that is false. It’s just simply about having amazing sex with your partner. There are a variety of belts that you can choose from such as: plastic devices, metal tubes, or even piercings.

People don’t want to get into male chastity because they may think that people will be able to tell that the belt is on. That is not true. The male Chastity belts are made to not be seen with clothes on. I would just advise men to not wear tight pants, then you might have the chance of showing.

Another Myth that people think is Male Chastity is unhealthy for your man. The man may encounter prostate problems if he doesn’t ejaculate every few weeks, but with your help there is a way he can expel his fluids, while still in his device, without climaxing. This way you both will be pleased and your man will remain healthy!

One of the most asked questions is “What is the use of a male chastity belt, if he can get it off easily.” That is False. Chastity Belts are made so that they can only be taken off by a medical professional. There are spikes in the belts too, so if he tried to take it off he would be in a lot of pain.

Hopefully, these myths and facts have shown you that this is a really fun lifestyle to get into, and it is not so harmful as people put it off to be. In my experiences, I’ve found it to be pleasurable and exciting. I am having the best time of my life, and I encourage you too!

Male Chastity Guide

First of all, it should be said that if you are worried about having a partner who talks to you about his desires and his interest in chastity, you have no need to be worried. Certain men (a lot even ;-), like giving control of their sexuality to their partner, while others like to control their partner and preciously guard the key.

Couples who experience male chastity tend to find improvement in their relationships in a profound and lasting way. The entire couple is involved with male chastity. I‘m going to tell you how chastity favors well-being in a couple. In reading these few paragraphs on male chastity, you will develop an understanding of why a man wants to be chaste and why this significantly improves relations in a couple.

There are only two reasons that push a couple to choose male chastity. The first one, to improve relations with one’s partner; the second, to improve your life and share pleasurable, rich and intense moments.

Beginning chastity

Spend some time in your relationship before using a chastity device. To start, explain to him in advance that you want him to satisfy you sexually, but that you will not allow him to reach orgasm.

The first time, you will certainly feel a bit intimidated by the circumstances, but with time, and in seeing your partner take pleasure in satisfying you, you will quickly understand your advantages and you will become more self-confident. You may also tell him that if he does his job well, you will allow him to reach orgasm tomorrow.

Once this first step has been completed and if you feel at ease and you observe that everything is fine between you, you may start having him wear a chastity device. (Preferably a HolyTrainer model, of course 😉

Once your partner is locked in a chastity device, I advise you to adopt a firm attitude towards him. The chastity device reminds him at all times that he is under your control. He will expect you to make suggestions explicitly. He will have the task of executing to your satisfaction, and in order to obtain the forthcoming release. So don’t hesitate to have guidelines and to share your desires with him.

You must be clear about the fact that he consented to your idea or that he approached you to ask that you manage his sexuality. It’s necessary to always remain firm about your shared commitments.

If one day he asks you to remove his chastity device to reach orgasm, he will also want to be rebuffed and teased. So, don’t hesitate to refuse but offer a future date so that he can fully satisfy you until then.

Placement of the chastity device

If you are new to chastity, I advise you to ask your partner to put the chastity device on you. However, be sure to keep the padlock close at hand. You must close the device with the padlock so that the little click, the noise produced by the lock when it is closed, marks the start of his “chaste period”. Starting from this moment, it must be clear for both of you that he is under your control.

I also advise you to always keep the keys on you. You must make him understand that you are the keeper of his freedom and that this could happen at any time. As a safety measure, I advise you to put a duplicate of the key in a hidden envelope so that, in case of emergency, he can remove the chastity device.

Periods for testing and becoming accustomed

Make sure that you can tolerate the chastity device by first closing it for 1 day, then 1 day and 1 night, then 2 or 3 days. Once these steps have been completed, make sure that there are no problems of pinching or burns on the skin. If everything is in order, you may then begin chastity for longer periods.


If the device is worn for a long period, it will be necessary to clean the penis regularly. You will not need to open the chastity device because a small amount of soap and the shower sprayer, that splashes water around in the device, will be sufficient. All the same, make sure to dry the penis well using a hair dryer because it is not advisable for the skin to remain humid. However, once a week it will be necessary to remove the chastity device in order to clean it well. If you do not want him to be able to touch his penis during this weekly cleaning, I advise you to bind his hands behind his back during the operation. The sensation of being released from his device without the power to touch himself will cause even more frustration for a man.

Don’t forget that for good physical hygiene, a man must empty his prostate gland regularly. It enlarges over time to produce a liquid that allows sperm to move freely. This gland, which does not contain sperm, has to be emptied in order to avoid prostatic hypertrophy. The time interval between each evacuation is specific to each man but, personally, I think that once a week is sufficient to offer total safety in this regard. If you do not want to authorize intercourse or masturbation, a man can empty his liquid through the urethra by simply massaging the prostate using a prostate massager. The advantage of this technique is that the man can empty this gland without reaching orgasm and without any sensation of pleasure, while also remaining enclosed in his chastity device.

The psychological aspect of male chastity

You will quickly notice a change of attitude in the chaste man. He will be more attentive and will not grumble about helping you with household tasks. He will treat you like a prince(ess) and will be attentive to you. If these changes please you, don’t forget to adjust your behavior towards him. Have a firm and directive attitude focused on your well-being and your sexual fulfillment. Once you are controlling his sexuality through cages, his principal preoccupation will be to be at your service. Don’t leave him in his armchair in front of the television. Give him directives such as cleaning up the kitchen, preparing a bath for you, waiting for you in the bed to give you a massage or simply to warm your bed (very practical in winter!). Don’t be bothered about giving orders and remind him that if you are not satisfied you will leave his device on for a longer period. This is very simple to implement.

In conclusion

Male chastity can bring a lot more to your couple that you may think at first glance. It’s an enriching lifestyle for you and your partner. Don’t forget that it’s up to you to make this time pleasant and constructive. If you control his sexuality, adopt a firm attitude and don’t hesitate to tell him what you’re expecting from him and how he can satisfy you. If you have given control to your partner, show this person love every day, be in a good mood and courteous and make sure that your partner lacks nothing. The day of the next release is approaching with the passage of each hour!

Why These Guys Put Their Dicks in Cages

Three men talk about peeing sitting down, the thrill of submission, and other nuances of chastity cages.

Male chastity is that thing where you lock your penis in a specially designed cage that prevents you from getting full erections or using your penis for sex. While locked up, you can’t masturbate or orgasm, and the cage can only be removed by your designated “keyholder.” While the thought of this makes most men cringe, it makes others whimper with excitement. Being caged can be extremely exciting and fulfilling. Some people say orgasm denial increases your sex drive and improves your focus. It also obviously heightens the stakes of a dom/sub relationship, with a master or mistress able to punish their sub by denying them not just sex but the ability to orgasm.

Obviously, this is not a casual kink. Not only does it change the life of the caged, it places a lot of responsibility in the hands of the keyholder. While slight discomfort is common for those who put their penises in cages (duh), in more serious cases a faulty or poorly set-up cage can cause serious injury, and if that happens, a keyholder needs to be able to remove the device right away.

To learn more about what drives the people involved in this fetish, we spoke to three men about their experiences with chastity and any advice they had for those itching to try it. Two of the men are gay, and one is bisexual, though that doesn’t mean that straight men aren’t into these cages—it just means all of the hetero guys we approached for this piece declined to talk out of embarrassment or nervousness. All names have been changed.


How to enjoy BDSM Role play with a Butt Plug

When choosing butt plugs for punishment, let your favorite be a curved plug of midi or mini size. The big toy is designed for more experienced users, and you better stop the choice on the anal plug, with a working surface not exceeding 12-15 cm and 1.5-2.5 cm in diameter of the bulk part itself.

You can be sure that even a more miniature device will take care of the health of your prostate gland thanks to the “correct” form and will provide a massage that is fantastic in terms of sensation and pleasure! The prostate stimulator, deeply immersed in the ass, will gently and gently massage the muscle walls of the anus, while simultaneously stimulating the prostate with its tip – a source of amazing sexual pleasure.

Materials and color

For the production of anal toys are used the most modern and high-tech materials:

  • Silicone;
  • Medical plastisol;
  • Polyvinyl chloride;
  • Acrylic;
  • Metals and alloys;
  • Gel;
  • Ceramics;
  • Glass;

These materials are completely safe for the health of men, non-toxic, will not cause irritation of the delicate tissues of the perennial zone and the anus itself, but at the same time have sufficient strength and elasticity for the most intense stimulation. The disadvantage of some of these materials having a porous surface (gel, latex) can be considered the ability to absorb unpleasant odors. You can get rid of the problem with a condom, put on a toy before use.

The color of your potential sex toy depends only on your personal preferences and desires. Today, you can easily buy a butt plug of any color – from completely transparent to charcoal-black, manufacturers offer the widest range of colors to satisfy the needs of their customers.

For maximum pleasure

After the experience of using the first anal plug is obtained, you will probably want to try something more piquant and exciting. Sex toys with vibration – pleasure for real gourmet sex, and this is fully true, if we are talking about anal stimulation. Powerful pushes, gentle pulsation – buzzing butt plug will deliver incredible pleasure and “get” the most sensual places of your nature. A very useful and practical option is the remote control, especially when it comes to plug for long wear.

If you have not yet decided on the size of your future “instrument” of anal caress, the ideal solution would be to buy an anal plug with a pump: this toy can increase several times due to the air pumped by a mini-pump, while staying in the ass.

A relatively new word in the industry of sex devices – male butt plugs with electrical stimulation. This is a very hot thrill for sexual gourmet – discharges of currents of small magnitude cause a powerful excitement and give a dizzying orgasm.

Experiments with size and relief can also give astonishing delight. The cork, which has a bold, bold relief and 6-12 cm in diameter, is designed for real “professionals” in anal fondles; this is the prerogative of experienced lovers who have well studied their own preferences and desires of a partner. The toy will give an incredible feeling of fullness during the love foreplay and will be a great tool if you want to experiment with fisting.

Naturism playful and romantic should purchase an anal plug with a tail.  Every year, fans of  Animal Play are becoming more and more, and with the help of such a toy, the image of your favorite animal will be realized most realistically. And if you’re looking for awesome butt tails that resembles your pet or favorite animal that you can play with, loveplugs.co is where you can find them so be sure to visit.

Butt plugs – prostate stimulants

If you finally came to the decision about buying the anal plug and decided to take care of your health, you will need a specific form of sex toy: its rounded tip is slightly bent, and the “body” of the plug has a slight deviation from the axis. It is this toy that will become a reliable tool for preventing erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, and sexual dysfunction – the first symptoms of prostatitis.

Guide to Milking with a Prostate Massager

Prostate milking is similar to a prostate massage. The prostate organ produces a milky fluid which is a major part of men ejaculate. The fluid is alkaline in nature and helps the ejected sperm to thrive in vagina’s acidic environment. It’s because of this milky fluid, prostate massaging is sometimes referred to as “prostate milking”. Are you looking forward to try prostate milking yourself? That’s great because the massage process is extremely important for the good health of the prostate gland. Besides, it also helps you to enjoy orgasmic pleasure and enhances your sex life. If you’re wearing one, you should first remove any anti-circumcision penis plugs. Otherwise, you may get an accident when you feel so much excitement.

You can perform prostate milking with a prostate massager or just any vibrator for man slave. The post below offers an expert guide on how to make the most of prostate milking with a massager.

Find the prostate

First of all, you have to know the exact location of the gland inside your body. You will be inserting the massager inside to milk the gland. So, if you are not aware of the exact location of the gland beforehand, it will be only a waste of them. For your information, the said gland is located 2-3” inside your rectum. It’s a small thing, something as small as a walnut.

Prepare yourself

You need to have a relaxed body and mind to enjoy prostate milking. According to experts, you must take a warm shower beforehand to relax your nerves. If you wish to enjoy the process with your partner, tell her to get a bath as well. You should never perform prostate milking in a rush. You need to give it time to explore the whole process at its best.

Besides, you should also trim/cut down and clean your nails. Tell your partner to follow the same. Gloves are the best to enjoy anal games. But some couples prefer the touch of raw skin on the body. Just take these little precautions and it will be all good.  You should also clean your anus thoroughly to avoid unpleasant experiences during inserting the massager inside.

To calm down the mind, take a few deep breaths. Don’t allow any thought that can put your mind at stress. Dim the light and play some light music to create a tranquil ambience.

Get a safe massager

There are several points to consider while choosing a prostate massager for prostate milking.

  • Go for a highly reputed brand backed by long list of happy users
  • The massager should be made from FDA-accredited materials, especially non-porous materials
  • The massager should be easy to clean
  • Go for a massager with flared base for safe anal use
  • Since this is your first time, get a small massager with thin diameter
  • Massagers with curve tip and bulbous head assure the best massage
  • If you want vibration while milking, look for a massager with in-built vibrator button

Lubrication is important

After you have got your massager, it’s time to get started for the actual process. Begin with adequate lubrication. Get a generous amount of anal lube and apply it on your prostate massager. It will help it go inside your body easily and fast. You should also apply some lube around the anus to make a smooth pathway for the massager.

How to milk

There are basically two ways how you can milk your prostate with the massager. One is the hands-free approach and the other is through a massager controlled by hand. If you want to enjoy with your partner, you can try the second option. But when you are alone, the hands-free approach will be the thing for you. In fact, as per the experts, the pleasure is more when you let the internal muscles do the thing for you.

First you should lay down on your back or side.  Lift the legs upwards with space in between so that you can easily access the anus. If you are alone, lay down on your back. If you are with your partner, lay down on your side.

Let’s talk about the hands-free approach first. Once you have lubed up the massager and the anus, you are ready to go. Slowly insert the device into your anus. Don’t use fingers to push it inside. The internal muscles will do it for you. You will simply need to clench the pelvic muscles. This clenching act will take the massager to your prostate and press it for a relaxing hands-free stimulation.

If you want to control the massager by hand, you have to get a one with handle. Then, you can just simply insert it inside and rub it back & forth for the stimulation. Be gentle with the rubbing as you are sending the device inside your body. A rough approach can injure the internal muscles and make the whole experience extremely painful.

You may feel little discomfort initially. But as you continue doing it, you will gradually get to experience some truly rewarding and unforgettable moments.