Straight men are finally starting to appreciate the glory of sex toys. Cock rings, strap-ons, or butt plugs are the most popular toys in sixteen states, according to a survey of Google shopping searches. Granted, two of those toys can be used by women, but the point is people are broadening their horizons of who gets to experience the love of an inanimate object. “I think the cultural norm has shifted and people are willing to explore more,” says Dr. Evan Goldstein, founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical.
Ahead, sex positions to open up a whole new world of retail therapy for you both.
The Ringside Seat
A cock ring helps him last longer and feel you more intensely, and if you pick one with a some vibration, it will rub against your clit in a most beautiful way. Perch yourself on the edge of a table, legs spread wide so you can both watch his engorged self slide on in.
The Satisfied Customer
Give him a whole new experience with a next level masturbator. Straddle his chest and engulf his penis with a toy like the Satisfyer Men that has a soft cushy inside that adjusts to give him as tight a fit as he likes. You can just work it up and down his shaft to give him your undivided attention or shift your V to his mouth so he has to work a little before you’ll let him get off.
The Semi-Deep Throat
If deep throating is only on one’s of y’all’s bucket list, enlist a toy like Blow Yo to handle those last few inches. Kneel between his legs, straddling a pillow topped with a vibrator for hand-free stim for you. Stroke his shaft with the ribbed toy while your mouth takes on the head and a much more manageable amount of shaft. Deep throating: literally never necessary!
The Suck and Cover
Before you go deep with prostate play, introduce him to his male g-spot with some external stim that’s totally not (yet) “butt stuff. “ Lie him back with a pillow under his ass so he’s propped up all nice for you. Perform your usual delightful BJ moves and when he’s super turned on, press a vibrating toy firmly against his taint, then shield your eyes. Get something versatile like Lelo’s Loki, so you can use it later on him for internal stim when/if y’all decide he does want some butt stuff after all.
The Trip Sitter
A man is never quite the same after he experiences the deeper more intense orgasms that come (er…) with prostate stimulation. Make that shit happen for him (hopefully not literally) with a vibrating prostate toy like the Aneros Vice. Once he’s super turned on, slide it in, turn in on and sit on his dick. Thrust slowly or just feel him bulging inside you and rub yourself. Honestly, this will blow his mind so much that your main role is just to be his trip sitter.
There’s a reason why BDSM toys and equipment are so popular, even among non-kinksters. The best toys enhance playtime between partners, increasing the erotic sensations both a dominant and a submissive feel. BDSM gear can also establish and maintain dominance over one (or more) partners, creating a consensual power play rooted in being restrained, bound, or sexually teased.
Of course, some toys aren’t meant for newcomers; they simply present too much risk. Luckily, there’s plenty of equipment out there for kinksters just getting their bearings in the world of BDSM.
BDSM toys for every kink treasure chest
Arguably the easiest kink item to obtain, blindfolds should be in every dom’s collection. Why are blindfolds so fun? Well, they provide sensory deprivation.
When blindfolds are on a sub, they heighten the sounds, feelings, and, in some cases, tastes they are exposed to during play. This makes touching much more sensual and intimate. Blindfolds also force the sub into reliance on the dom, building tension between moments. Will a domme press her hand on a sub’s breast, or will she move her fingers down to her belly? Is a dom about to force his sub into giving oral sex, or make him receive? Blindfolds turn those actions into an open question, making this garment the perfect addition to any kinky power play.
Unlike other BDSM equipment options, there are very few safety precautions to keep in mind with blindfolds. Players just need to make sure a blindfold can be easily removed, and that the blindfolded partner remains in a safe area where they won’t accidentally stumble, fall, or roll into a dangerous object (such as a sharp knife or lit candle). Restraints can further prevent this from becoming a problem by, well, keeping a sub in place.
2) Hitachi’s Magic Wand
The Magic Wand is one of the best vibrators on the market. Originally designed as a back massager, Hitachi’s Magic Wand revolutionized the sex toy industry by inadvertently creating a toy that worked perfectly for stimulating cisgender and transgender women’s genitals. And as far as kink toys go, the Magic Wand still remains one of the best vibrators to pick up.
The original Magic Wand has since been replicated by a variety of toy makers, with Hitachi creating an updated wireless version called the “Magic Wand Rechargeable.” Hitachi’s wand can be used for masturbation through direct application on genitals across genders, and with the Rechargeable model, different vibration settings also allow for different kinds of genital stimulation: from a low rumble to intense, pounding sensations.
But the Magic Wand can also be used in bondage and dom/sub play sessions. Wands can be tied and bound to a sub’s genitals, giving the sub ongoing stimulation for their dominant’s pleasure. Or wands can be applied for edging, allowing doms to control a sub’s orgasm by constantly denying them the opportunity to climax. The Magic Wand has many uses, and as far as BDSM goes, its application is a must.
3) Bondage Tape
When it comes to restraints, bondage tape is one of the best sex toys for any kink fan to pick up. Especially beginners.
For the uninitiated, bondage tape is a PVC strip that can be used to wrap together different parts of the body, such as arms, legs, and breasts. Unlike duct tape and other adhesive-based tapes, bondage tape only sticks to itself. So while the strip is durable and hard to break without a pair of scissors, bondage tape is also safe to use without worrying about skin tearing or any other adverse effects.
PVC-based tape is excellent for beginners for that same reason. Unlike rope, there’s less risk for circulation. And binding a partner together is much easier than learning how to tie rope columns. For quick, easy but durable bondage, grabbing PVC tape is essential.
Some important safety points: When binding someone, be careful not to bend the tape or draw it too tightly to their skin. This can lead to circulation issues, not to mention general discomfort. Take care not to press bondage tape too tightly onto a sub’s body when using it as a blindfold or as a gag, and always come up with a non-verbal safeword before taping shut a play partner’s mouth or eyes (a hand gesture or series of squeezes are both great options).
Remember to have medical scissors on hand to cut your partner out of their bondage in case of an emergency or when it’s time to end play, too. Having blunted scissors allows kinksters to quickly free their play partner while diminishing the risk of cutting skin.
Dildos, of course, are phallic sex toys that can be inserted into a vagina or anus. They come in various shapes and sizes, and some even come with built-in vibrators. This makes dildos pretty versatile across play partners, as every person can use a dildo in at least one orifice of their body (if not more!). Whether a domme uses her dildo to peg a sub, or a sub is forced to use a dildo on his dom, dildos are perfect for kinksters into penetration.
When it comes to dildos, there are two ways kinksters can make the most out of these phallic playthings. Dildos can be used by themselves for penetration, either in aiding masturbation or with a partner’s guidance. They can also be used in conjunction with a harness, turning dildos into excellent toys for both anal and vaginal sex.
Whenever using a dildo, it’s absolutely necessary to use lubricant. Plenty of lube should be applied on the dildo, as well as inside and around the area that will be penetrated. Some dildos can only be used with certain kinds of lubes, too, such a water-based lubes. Remember to read any care instructions that come with a dildo before slapping on lube.
When done with the play, make sure to thoroughly clean a dildo—especially if it’s about to be shared between partners. Again, carefully read through your dildo’s sanitizing instructions before passing it around.
Harnesses are a thing of beauty for any trans or queer couple. Owning one of these makes penetrative sex all the easier—and in some cases, sexier.
A harness is an undergarment worn over the genitals that can be used to hold and mount a dildo. They’re useful for a couple reasons. For cis women, harnesses are the key to “pegging,” a sex act where a strap-on dildo is used to penetrate a bottom’s anus. Of course, harnesses are also perfect for using a dildo during vaginal sex, and for some cisgender lesbians, this is their preferred use.
Meanwhile, for non-op trans women who cannot use their genitals for anal or vaginal penetration, strap-ons are also perfect solutions that simulate penetrative sex’s sensation without needing to “get it up” (or keep it up). And trans men (as well as cis men) can also use harnesses for penetrative sex for similar reasons.
As always, there are some safety tips to keep in mind using a harness. Make sure the harness’ size is perfect for your body type before picking one out. Designers such as SpareParts’ Tomboi provide online guides for measuring body types to pick out the right fit. And before buying a dildo for your harness, make sure its diameter and size are perfect for your pick. The last thing you want is a strap-on falling out—or being too big to wear.
Handcuffs are a slightly more complicated bondage solution than tape, but with practice, they can quickly become a must-have for any equipment library.
As the name suggests, cuffs can be used to bind limbs, keeping a sub restrained for play scenes. They can also be used to lock a sub to a piece of furniture, such as a chair, table, or bedpost. Or two handcuffs can be locked across each wrist, connecting a submissive to a bedpost in a spread eagle position. Again, it’s up to your imagination and comfort levels.
There’s a variety of cuffs out there for kinksters. But no matter your choice, know that handcuffs come with greater risks than bondage tape. This kink equipment is designed specifically to keep submissives in place, so in an emergency situation, it’s harder to free play partners from locked restraints than from tape.
Familiarize yourself with how your handcuffs feel when used, and whether your choice’s locking style presents circulation issues. If your cuffs don’t have a double locking mechanism, don’t use them. These cuffs are much more likely to tighten under pressure. And if your cuffs use a key, keep a spare key in a secure location. Keep tabs on the main set’s location at all times.
Ropeplay is beloved by many kinksters for one simple reason: It’s versatile. Rope can be used to make mock handcuffs. It can be used to restrain someone to a bed, table, or chair. Doms can tie their sub’s limbs together with it, or in conjunction with sex toys. In the right hands, a rope is an amazing tool that can heighten the stakes in play scenes, making restraint all the more sexy in ways that handcuffs, tape, or blindfolds can’t quite attain.
When it comes to rope, practice makes perfect. There’s a variety of knots and positions that have to be learned in order to have safe ropeplay sessions. Whether that means tying your partners’ forearm to a bedpost or drawing two limbs together, there’s plenty of columns beginners can learn from the start.
While rope is one of the best BDSM restraints around, it also introduces a wide range of safety concerns to watch out for. For one, any rope should be looked at carefully before use to check for damage. The rope must be tied in specific positions to maintain a sub’s safety, too. The neck, wrists, armpits, genitals, eyes, and joints should be avoided, as intense pressure on these areas can cause severe damage and even be life-threatening.
Improper rope tying can cut off circulation, too, leading to potential nerve damage if a knot is tied too tight. For this reason, doms must check in on their subs’ rope regularly, making sure their skin isn’t showing signs of blood loss. And of course, medical scissors should be kept on hand at all times to cut through rope in emergency situations.
It doesn’t take much imagination to figure out why collars are such an excellent beginner choice for BDSM toys. Like bondage tape, these toys are simple to pick up but can help both submissives and dominants feel immersed in their roles, making the wearer extra obedient for their owner.
For one, collars can be as complicated or as simple as play partners want them to be. Leather collars with leash rings that latch in the back are commonly found in sex shops and kink stores across the country, but some kinksters may prefer grabbing their collars from places like Pet Smart. Both options work, and doing the latter can help make a scene extra sexy for subs into pet play. There are also more advanced options, such as collars that lock with a key. Plus, chokers and collars are also fashionable, which means submissives interested in public play can use a collar to discreetly signal their submissive side while out on the street.
Dominants using a collar should always keep any hair or skin away from collar latches while putting it on their submissives. If using a collar that locks, make sure the key (and its spare) are accessible at all times. And ideally give two fingers’ gap between the collar and neck when applying it. Lastly, submissives should always warn their dominants if a collar feels too tight, and collars should never be tugged.
Breathable gags let subs breathe during BDSM play sessions, making them perfect for beginners. True, there’s only one way to use a gag. These toys go on, inside, or around the mouth. But like collars, gags can increase immersion and make a submissive feel helplessly restrained. After all, there’s nothing more humiliating than being unable to speak.
Gags vary from style to style. Some simply muffle the gag-wearer’s voice, while others essentially stop them from speaking altogether. And there are various gags out there, from the classic ball gags to forniphilic gags that force submissives to wear a dildo for their dominant’s pleasure. But for beginners, we recommend breathable gags, which are hollow and feature holes that help submissives take in air during their first few gagging sessions.
Before starting play, create a non-verbal safe word to end a scene. For instance, submissives can snap their hands or blink slowly three times. Always give submissives time to try on a gag, making sure it fits properly and does not cause discomfort. Practice putting them on and taking them off a few times as well.
UberKinky also recommends taking time training with a gag, letting submissives’ mouths get used to using one before an extended play session. And the site points out that gags should never be used with an upset stomach or cold: The latter can lead to asphyxiation, and the former can cause the user to choke on vomit if they have to throw up.
Even if you’re still not completely sold on BDSM toys, invest in good lube. For all of the pleasure and none of the (unwanted) pain, a good lubricant should always be in your kink toolbox. Lube makes any kind of penetration easier and, typically, allows you to play for longer and make sure everything is moving smoothly.
When choosing a lube, it’s important to remember that you’re choosing something that goes directly into your body, so you’ll want to make sure it’s safe and provides the sensations you want. According to UberKinky, it’s best to avoid parabens, which can trigger an allergic reaction and have been linked to cancer, and glycerin, which could increase your risk of getting a yeast infection.
Most lubricants are either water-based or silicone-based. Water-based lubes are the most versatile, and safe to use with latex condoms and silicone sex toys. Silicone-based lubes are also condom safe and waterproof, but not always safe to use with silicone sex toys. Always avoid oil-based lubricants with condoms, as they can cause breakage.
Studies conducted at Indiana University (USA) in 2009 found that 45% of men aged between 18-65 years had used a vibrator and that vibrator use is associated with improved sexual function. The men who used sex toys were more likely to participate in sexual health-promoting behaviours such as testicular examinations. They also scored themselves highly on satisfaction levels of erectile dysfunction, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire.
Sex toys have long been considered the preserve of women and still are by some people, but more men are coming to realise their benefits to sexual health. The improved design, shape and quality of male sex toys has lead to a wealth of products available online and advertised in men’s magazines.
Stimulation of the prostate can offer a number of health and pleasure giving benefits. The prostate, described by some as the male equivalent of a woman’s G-spot, is a walnut-sized semen storage gland located at the base of the penis, just below the bladder. It can be stimulated both externally through pressure against the perineum and internally through the rectum. Anal stimulation is more direct, intense and produces better results.
When ignored, semen can build up within the prostate, creating stagnation and bacterial growth which can cause swelling and inflammation (prostatitis). An enlarged prostate can cause urinary and erectile problems, both distressing and uncomfortable, disrupting sleep and sexual function.
Benefits of Prostate Massage
Regular prostate massage can relax tension and stress in the muscles and nerve endings in the prostate area.
When the prostate is massaged, a man can experience extremely powerful, long-lasting, often multiple orgasms, and intense ejaculation. A prostate orgasm also flushes out any stagnant prostate fluid which can cause swelling of the prostate, thus avoiding the need for surgery.
Regular prostate massage can reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer and genital pain by improving blood circulation and cleansing the prostate.
In addition, prostate massage can ease the symptoms of haemorrhoids and anal fissures.
Prostate massage can be performed by inserting a well lubricated finger into the rectum facing upwards towards the stomach. This position can be awkward to maintain, so many men use prostate massagers in order to stimulate the prostate gland comfortably, either by themselves or with their partner.
Some prostate massagers vibrate with varying speeds which change the intensity of the stimulation felt through the prostate. Other massagers require manual manipulation.
Use of a good lubricant is important to make the massage feel comfortable and more pleasurable. Yes But Organic Lubricant is designed specifically to provide long lasting slipperiness during anal play. Made without the chemicals or skin damaging ingredients typically found in anal lubricants, Yes But is 100% skin safe and is free from preservatives, parabens, glycols and Glycerin.
Prostate massagers come in many designs with differing functions. They are available in silicone, which is skin safe and gentler on the delicate skin of the genital area, glass or even metal which can be cooled or warmed up. Some prostate massagers can be used manually and others vibrate, creating different sexual sensations.
Anal beads consist of several small balls attached together in series, which are inserted and then removed with varying speeds depending on the effect desired – usually to enhance orgasm.
Anal vibrators are designed to stimulate this nerve-rich area. By increasing or decreasing the intensity of the vibrations, a man can control the depth of sexual sensation he wants to feel. Some vibrating anal toys also have different vibration patterns which change the waves of vibrations. As with all anal toys, a ridge on the toy should be present to stop the toy from disappearing inside.
Anal plugs can be made from metal, glass or silicone and many people love the full feeling they promote. Anal plugs are designed to be very stimulating, particularly in conjunction with oral sex or lovemaking. Some use them as a way of preparing the anus for full anal sex.
As with any male sex toy, a good quality lubricant will make their use more pleasurable. Choose a high quality sex toy, made from a skin safe material such as silicone, which should be easy to clean and non-porous. Rubber and latex products can be difficult to clean and can absorb bacteria.
Male masturbation has many benefits and is rarely damaging to health, unless practiced to extreme levels or with force. The use of some male sex toys can prevent over-masturbation.
Benefits of Masturbation
It can reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer. In 2008 an Australian study found that men aged 20-50 years who masturbated more than 5 times each week were 33% less likely to develop prostate cancer. Carcinogens are flushed out from the prostate gland during ejaculation, reducing build up of seminal fluid.
It reduces stress and tension. When we engage in any form of sexual pleasure, we produce dopamine, a hormone that makes us feel good and endorphins which give us a sense of well-being. Both have an impact upon our blood pressure by lowering it.
Masturbation is hassle-free. There is no performance anxiety involved which can impact upon our sex lives.
It is safe. There is no risk of contracting sexual diseases or infections such as HIV, syphilis or gonorrhoea.
It can improve sexual relationships. Masturbation can help when one partner requires more sex than the other person. It can also help couples to open up to each other and show each other the most pleasurable ways of satisfying them sexually.
It can aid premature ejaculation by helping the man to become aware of what he is feeling and concentrate on increasing the pleasure for longer.
It can improve self awareness and sexual satisfaction. People who masturbate are more likely to have better sexual health because they are aware of how their body feels and notice when something is not right. They are more likely to seek medical help and advice than people who do not masturbate.
Male masturbation may be the only way some men are able to reach orgasm due to physical disability, medication or following surgical or medical intervention, cancer treament or a medical condition such as diabetes or heart disease
Using a male masturbator can provide intense pleasure for a man. Many masturbators have different patterned internal sleeves which can change the intensity of pleasure and some vibrate, offering waves of orgasmic pleasure.
A male masturbator can help men who suffer from manual dexterity problems or have a partner who is unable to masturbate them manually.
Many masturbators are waterproof, made from skin safe materials and some are rechargeable, thus avoiding batteries dying at that crucial moment.
Cock rings are a common solution for men experiencing erectile dysfunction. A cock ring is a ring placed around the penis, usually at the base. Its purpose is to reduce the flow of blood from the penis, thus maintaining an erection for a longer period of time. Cock rings can also be worn around both the penis and scrotum: the scrotal ring is usually called a testicular cuff. They can be made from a variety of materials but are commonly manufactured using rubber, silicone, leather or metal. Skin safe silicone rings are much gentler on the skin in this area which is very delicate.
A cock ring can be worn if a man suffers from erectile dysfunction, in conjunction with a penis pump. The pump helps to produce an erection by simple mechanical and hydrodynamical action, whilst the cock ring is slid into position at the base of the erect penis to maintain the erection. As soon as the vacuum is released, the ring needs to be positioned before the erection is lost.
A cock ring worn during sexual intercourse can prolong the pleasure for both people involved, due to the sensation of tightness and extreme engorgement that wearing one provides. Often, wearing a cock ring can delay orgasms and produce larger erections, both intensifying orgasmic sensations.
Vibrating cock rings can bring pleasure to women as well, as some have a protruding clitoral stimulator which is designed to stimulate the clitoris, vulva or anus. Coupled with a larger erection and clitoral stimulation, a woman can often achieve a dual orgasm, clitorally and vaginally. A cock ring can enable a woman to reach orgasm even if her partner has orgasmed, or if she requires clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm – 70% of women do.
Some rings are designed to be worn around both the penis and the testicles sich as Hot Octopuss Atom Plus and the Rocks-Off 8 Ball
Use of a good lubricant is essential to ensure that the ring can be easily removed.
Cock rings should not be worn for more than 30 minutes and any reputable retailer of cock rings will advise their customers of this fact.
Falling asleep or using illicit drugs whilst wearing the cock ring can be extremely dangerous. Any pain, discomfort or feeling of coldness in the genitals is a warning sign and the ring should be removed immediately.
You occasionaly read about men who have got metal rings stuck on their penises which, in rare cases, can cause penile strangulation which requires urgent treatment as loss of blood flow to the organ can lead to serious complications and in severe cases necessitate amputation.
This is why we never recommend using metal constriction rings and only recommend silicone rings that are stretchy and can be removed easily.
You might think that using a simple household elastic band as they can dig into the tissues of the penis is fine but the materials used in rubber bands are quite rough so can irritate the skin and tug on your skin or pubic hair whilst in use. The skin of the penis and scrotum is thinner and more sensitIve that other parts of the body so there is the potential for chafing and bruising.
Do not use if…
Cock rings should not be used by those who suffer from heart disease, blood clotting disorders, sickle cell disease or those taking blood-thinning medication before seeking medical advice. If the cock ring feels too tight, remove it immediately. Seek medical advice if there are signs of bruising.
Having said all of the above, cock rings are great when used responsibly and can immensely heighten sexual pleasure.
There are several vibrating sex toys for men available on the market, many of which produce intense sexual pleasure and powerful orgasms.
Many vibrators allow a man to place his penis partially or fully inside the toy and by increasing the intensity of vibrations, achieve the level of sexual pleasure he is seeking. Some toys offer differing sensations by the way in which they vibrate or rotate.
These sex toys can help when there is a decrease in nerve sensation caused by physical injury, disease or side effects from medication. The Pulse Solo Essential is an ideal toy to help enjoy sexual stimulation and pleasure as it can be used when the penis is flaccid or erect.
Whatever your sexual need or desire, there are many benefits to sex toys beyond pleasure.
Three men talk about peeing sitting down, the thrill of submission, and other nuances of chastity cages.
Male chastity is that thing where you lock your penis in a specially designed cage that prevents you from getting full erections or using your penis for sex. While locked up, you can’t masturbate or orgasm, and the cage can only be removed by your designated “keyholder.” While the thought of this makes most men cringe, it makes others whimper with excitement. Being caged can be extremely exciting and fulfilling. Some people say orgasm denial increases your sex drive and improves your focus. It also obviously heightens the stakes of a dom/sub relationship, with a master or mistress able to punish their sub by denying them not just sex but the ability to orgasm.
Obviously, this is not a casual kink. Not only does it change the life of the caged, it places a lot of responsibility in the hands of the keyholder. While slight discomfort is common for those who put their penises in cages (duh), in more serious cases a faulty or poorly set-up cage can cause serious injury, and if that happens, a keyholder needs to be able to remove the device right away.
To learn more about what drives the people involved in this fetish, we spoke to three men about their experiences with chastity and any advice they had for those itching to try it. Two of the men are gay, and one is bisexual, though that doesn’t mean that straight men aren’t into these cages—it just means all of the hetero guys we approached for this piece declined to talk out of embarrassment or nervousness. All names have been changed.
Men and masturbation being best friends is nothing new, but using sex toys? Well, they don’t seem as confident when they are involved. But times are changing!
Initial Masturbation Thoughts
It’s not much of a surprise that men touch themselves. Do not feel guilty or fall prey to old cautionary tales. Feel comfortable in your own hands and reject the taboo. Masturbation is perfectly normal and quite healthy. As long as you are not neglecting aspects of your life to overindulge or being brutally rough and causing harm to your penis, go ahead and “hands solo” — as often as you please.
Whether you “drive stick” a few times a day or once in a blue moon, rubbing one out is not only sexually gratifying, but it has some other wonderful benefits:
Increases body and self-awareness
Enhances sexual activity
Strengthens pelvic muscles
Reduces the risk of prostate cancer
Use Toys for Better Orgasms
Men might not be so accustomed to using sex accessories. They have generally been considered tools associated with assisting women to achieve arousal. But there are many great devices developed to help the males of the species have fun, too! The right gadget can give guys the extra stimulation to reach the most explosive and intense orgasm compared to simple hand-to-penis combat.
Don’t be shy. Explore sex shops in person or online for discretion. Search the variety for what tickles for imagination and provokes your kinks. Beyond the options such as vibrators, Fleshlights, sleeves, or pocket pussies, there are things like hand-sized portable vaginas made of soft silicone blends or thermoplastic elastomers (TPE) to feel like real skin.
Then we have cock rings worn over the shaft or scrotum to keep the penis rock hard by preventing blood flow. It also intensifies sensations during masturbation and climax.
Then, prostate stimulators are intended for butt play. They are inserted into the anus, and their quivering arouses the gland, known as the male G-spot, for full-body orgasms.
Sex, today, is everywhere and is so easily accessible. Arguably, in an age when there is an overabundance of nooky, and it seems like everyone is screwing everyone, sometimes it’s best to refrain from the crowd for personal protection. About 40 million people are living with HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus), with numbers continuing to climb and many unaware.
Though there have been significant strides in the treatment of the disease, there is no documented cure to date, and it remains a relevant health crisis around the world. The only way to avoid the passing of a sexually transmitted infection is to completely abstain from intercourse.
Masturbation is the safest form of sex one can have. It is virtually impossible to transmit an STI unless you are participating in risky behaviors, such as sharing toys without following proper cleaning techniques. Any activity that involves the exchange of bodily fluid increases the chance of giving or receiving an infection. Playing alone, you can feel extremely safe, satisfying yourself as much as you want, without worrying about catching a disease.
Fleshlights and dolls are nice alternatives to simple hands-on masturbation if you desire to experience the sensation of inserting your pecker into a tempting, velvety abyss without requiring the extra security of a condom.
Whether you are single or in a relationship, going “hands solo” does plenty of good for a man’s physical and emotional wellbeing. Masturbation is a clear mood booster — most men, whether they admit so or not, do it from an early age for obvious reasons. Done correctly, every part of stroking your meat should feel increasingly delicious, from beginning to end, but it also uplifts one’s state of mind.
During ejaculation, the jet of hormones and “feel good” neurotransmitters released from the brain are said to produce positive consequences — levels of cortisol increase in small amounts just enough to regulate the immune system.
Messaging your helmet also ups the dopamine, boosts motivation, focus, and sense of arousal. Oxytocin, “the love hormone,” is typically produced in higher volumes in women, reportedly inspires empathy and trust in relationships, reducing depression and anxiety. The surge of other sanguine chemicals like serotonin, prolactin, testosterone, and epinephrine enable men to keep the pep in their step.
A slightly less known fact is masturbation is effective in alleviating pain. Men with chronic afflictions claim that after a few sessions alone, certain suffering was assuaged anywhere from a few minutes to a couple of days.
Self and Body Comprehension
An aspect of sex often neglected is self-love, as issues of ego and personal regard can be complicated when concerning men, who are typically deemed the ones expected to provide care. But guys need and deserve appreciation as well. Handling yourself through masturbation is an excellent method to becoming more aware and fond of your body.
Removing the pressures and worry of having to please someone else while exploring one’s own skin helps a man to recognize the nature of a sensual touch, which will bring him the most satisfaction. Use toys to discover secret fetishes and kinks that turn you on. Observe unexplored erogenous zones that make you cum that haven’t yet come to mind. Play with other parts besides the penis to get up.
Building your confidence when you are in solitude aids in heightening your self-esteem, improving relations with others, and fostering an optimistic, self-assured lover. Did you know that jerking off at least a few times a week is like an exercise for the penis? This workout keeps the pubic muscles tone and fit, developing harder and rigid erections, so you can become better in bed.
As society grows more accepting of sexual diversity and the use of gadgets becomes more mainstream, it is time for men to think outside of the box. Many might view the utilization of sex toys as a feminine undertaking. Straight men, especially, might find the matter taboo and tend not to think much about sex accessories in or outside of the bedroom. It might also be believed that men have an easier time reaching orgasm. So why bother with the extras?
For one, the ideal instruments can greatly improve the quality of the male climax experience. Remove the idea of devices being only fluffy and pink. Sex toys for men exist, too! There is an evergrowing vault designed for everyone, even for the toughest of dudes.
A dive into naughty play might be what a man needs to escape from the routine revive his sex life. Jumping way out of one’s comfort zone by opening up and trying new things is the best way to continue down a road of fun and mind-blowing sex, be that with one partner, a group, or all on your lonesome.
When people talk about adult toys, they mostly ramble on about vibrators and dildos. Sure, these toys are classics, and there’s a reason why we love them so much. But what about nipple clamps? Isn’t nipple play a massive turn-on for lots of men and women?
Yes, it is. Nipples are one of the most sensitive parts of the human body. Hence, our article is here to help you discover a world of wild sensation you’ve been missing out on for years. We’re here to uncover the truth behind one of the best sex toys in the industry — nipple clamps.
What Is Nipple Play?
Namely, the human body has numerous erogenous zones. From head to toes, we’re full of various places that up the overall sensation while having sex. And one of the most sensitive of these erogenous zones is the nipple. These reddish circles on our chest are full of nerves that react even to the slightest of touches.
Therefore, it’s no wonder why most cultures in the world sexualize them. People talk about what kind they like all the time. From big and round to small and almost unnoticeable, we all love to see nipples and play with them. But what is nipple play? Well, it’s a form of sexual activity that revolves around licking, biting, or pinching your partner’s nipples.
The reason why it’s even a thing is the fact that it can lead to eventual nipple orgasm if done the right way. Sure, not everyone can reach it, but that’s not the reason not to try it out. In addition to other sexual acts, nipple play can help the overall sexual experience. It’s similar to biting your partner’s lips or kissing their neck while fucking.
Still, nipple play isn’t complete without the right toys. The adult toy industry is full of exciting equipment that can help you and your partner up your sex life in no time. And since we’re here to talk about nipple clamps, let’s segue into interesting and juicy details that come with these toys. Shall we?
What Are Nipple Clamps, and How Are They Used?
Just like a dildo or a vibrator, a nipple clamp is a sex toy. It can come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, and it can even vibrate. However, it’s a criminally overlooked toy, in our opinion. The main reason is that people don’t know much about it.
Both men and women use nipple clamps, making them unisex toys. Their primary purpose is to restrict the blood flow inside the nipple and subsequently reintroduce it. This temporary lack of blood leads to slight pain that goes well with BDSM activities. However, in the bondage community, this form of sexual play is what we know as breast torture.
Nipple toys come in for main types — clothes-pin-style, tweezers, clovers, and piercing clamps. Still, you can use any other object that can perform the same thing if you’re willing to experiment. But in that case, it’s key to make sure these improvised clamps are safe for such use.
Since we have a pair of nipples, the toys connect via a chain. And with the use of this link, you can pull on both nipples at the same time with your mouth. Additionally, you can connect your nipple clamps with other sex toys or even objects. For example, guys can link them with their cock cages or rings, while girls can attach them to their clitoral clamp.
Why Are Nipple Clamps So Unpopular?
Unfortunately, most people have an aversion to mixing pain and pleasure. It mostly has to do with the negative portrayal of BDSM in the mainstream. Still, enjoying nipple sucking, pinching, and biting doesn’t mean you’re part of the bondage community. Nipple stimulation is as natural as any other form of sexual activity.
Come to think of it, lots of people enjoy rough sex but don’t associate it with kinks like S&M. Porn videos are full of anal sex with deep breaths while still being somewhat painful. Therefore, we think it’s time for a change. There’s no need for taboos and stigmas that surround breast and nipple stimulation.
Also, numerous types of nipple clamps don’t give that BDSM vibe. Some are more gentle and colorful, making them perfect for beginners. They can prove to be that extra spark that will make your sex life feel good and exciting like before. Hence, giving them a chance might prove the best sexual decision you’ve ever made.
Where Can I Get Nipple Clamps?
All this talk of nipple clamps being unpopular might lead one to think they’re not easy to find. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Both online and physical stores are full of nipple toys and accessories. Moreover, nipple orgasms are just a few clicks away from you.
If you’re not that comfortable visiting an actual sex store, our bet is to go online and order them. Try visiting https://lovegasm.co/collections/nipple-clamps-butterfly, this way, you won’t risk someone seeing you at a place some bigots consider dirty and immoral. And while you’re at it, browse for other toys as well.
But before we leave you, it’s important to note that you start slow with nipple play. We suggest that you begin gently with clamps and gradually up your endurance levels. Nevertheless, you’ll soon realize how good tit sucking, pulling, and biting can be. Nipple orgasms feel good for a reason.
When choosing butt plugs for punishment, let your favorite be a curved plug of midi or mini size. The big toy is designed for more experienced users, and you better stop the choice on the anal plug, with a working surface not exceeding 12-15 cm and 1.5-2.5 cm in diameter of the bulk part itself.
You can be sure that even a more miniature device will take care of the health of your prostate gland thanks to the “correct” form and will provide a massage that is fantastic in terms of sensation and pleasure! The prostate stimulator, deeply immersed in the ass, will gently and gently massage the muscle walls of the anus, while simultaneously stimulating the prostate with its tip – a source of amazing sexual pleasure.
Materials and color
For the production of anal toys are used the most modern and high-tech materials:
Metals and alloys;
These materials are completely safe for the health of men, non-toxic, will not cause irritation of the delicate tissues of the perennial zone and the anus itself, but at the same time have sufficient strength and elasticity for the most intense stimulation. The disadvantage of some of these materials having a porous surface (gel, latex) can be considered the ability to absorb unpleasant odors. You can get rid of the problem with a condom, put on a toy before use.
The color of your potential sex toy depends only on your personal preferences and desires. Today, you can easily buy a butt plug of any color – from completely transparent to charcoal-black, manufacturers offer the widest range of colors to satisfy the needs of their customers.
For maximum pleasure
After the experience of using the first anal plug is obtained, you will probably want to try something more piquant and exciting. Sex toys with vibration – pleasure for real gourmet sex, and this is fully true, if we are talking about anal stimulation. Powerful pushes, gentle pulsation – buzzing butt plug will deliver incredible pleasure and “get” the most sensual places of your nature. A very useful and practical option is the remote control, especially when it comes to plug for long wear.
If you have not yet decided on the size of your future “instrument” of anal caress, the ideal solution would be to buy an anal plug with a pump: this toy can increase several times due to the air pumped by a mini-pump, while staying in the ass.
A relatively new word in the industry of sex devices – male butt plugs with electrical stimulation. This is a very hot thrill for sexual gourmet – discharges of currents of small magnitude cause a powerful excitement and give a dizzying orgasm.
Experiments with size and relief can also give astonishing delight. The cork, which has a bold, bold relief and 6-12 cm in diameter, is designed for real “professionals” in anal fondles; this is the prerogative of experienced lovers who have well studied their own preferences and desires of a partner. The toy will give an incredible feeling of fullness during the love foreplay and will be a great tool if you want to experiment with fisting.
Naturism playful and romantic should purchase an anal plug with a tail. Every year, fans of Animal Play are becoming more and more, and with the help of such a toy, the image of your favorite animal will be realized most realistically. And if you’re looking for awesome butt tails that resembles your pet or favorite animal that you can play with, loveplugs.co is where you can find them so be sure to visit.
Butt plugs – prostate stimulants
If you finally came to the decision about buying the anal plug and decided to take care of your health, you will need a specific form of sex toy: its rounded tip is slightly bent, and the “body” of the plug has a slight deviation from the axis. It is this toy that will become a reliable tool for preventing erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, and sexual dysfunction – the first symptoms of prostatitis.
Prostate milking is similar to a prostate massage. The prostate organ produces a milky fluid which is a major part of men ejaculate. The fluid is alkaline in nature and helps the ejected sperm to thrive in vagina’s acidic environment. It’s because of this milky fluid, prostate massaging is sometimes referred to as “prostate milking”. Are you looking forward to try prostate milking yourself? That’s great because the massage process is extremely important for the good health of the prostate gland. Besides, it also helps you to enjoy orgasmic pleasure and enhances your sex life. If you’re wearing one, you should first remove any anti-circumcision penis plugs. Otherwise, you may get an accident when you feel so much excitement.
First of all, you have to know the exact location of the gland inside your body. You will be inserting the massager inside to milk the gland. So, if you are not aware of the exact location of the gland beforehand, it will be only a waste of them. For your information, the said gland is located 2-3” inside your rectum. It’s a small thing, something as small as a walnut.
You need to have a relaxed body and mind to enjoy prostate milking. According to experts, you must take a warm shower beforehand to relax your nerves. If you wish to enjoy the process with your partner, tell her to get a bath as well. You should never perform prostate milking in a rush. You need to give it time to explore the whole process at its best.
Besides, you should also trim/cut down and clean your nails. Tell your partner to follow the same. Gloves are the best to enjoy anal games. But some couples prefer the touch of raw skin on the body. Just take these little precautions and it will be all good. You should also clean your anus thoroughly to avoid unpleasant experiences during inserting the massager inside.
To calm down the mind, take a few deep breaths. Don’t allow any thought that can put your mind at stress. Dim the light and play some light music to create a tranquil ambience.
Get a safe massager
There are several points to consider while choosing a prostate massager for prostate milking.
Go for a highly reputed brand backed by long list of happy users
The massager should be made from FDA-accredited materials, especially non-porous materials
The massager should be easy to clean
Go for a massager with flared base for safe anal use
Since this is your first time, get a small massager with thin diameter
Massagers with curve tip and bulbous head assure the best massage
If you want vibration while milking, look for a massager with in-built vibrator button
Lubrication is important
After you have got your massager, it’s time to get started for the actual process. Begin with adequate lubrication. Get a generous amount of anal lube and apply it on your prostate massager. It will help it go inside your body easily and fast. You should also apply some lube around the anus to make a smooth pathway for the massager.
How to milk
There are basically two ways how you can milk your prostate with the massager. One is the hands-free approach and the other is through a massager controlled by hand. If you want to enjoy with your partner, you can try the second option. But when you are alone, the hands-free approach will be the thing for you. In fact, as per the experts, the pleasure is more when you let the internal muscles do the thing for you.
First you should lay down on your back or side. Lift the legs upwards with space in between so that you can easily access the anus. If you are alone, lay down on your back. If you are with your partner, lay down on your side.
Let’s talk about the hands-free approach first. Once you have lubed up the massager and the anus, you are ready to go. Slowly insert the device into your anus. Don’t use fingers to push it inside. The internal muscles will do it for you. You will simply need to clench the pelvic muscles. This clenching act will take the massager to your prostate and press it for a relaxing hands-free stimulation.
If you want to control the massager by hand, you have to get a one with handle. Then, you can just simply insert it inside and rub it back & forth for the stimulation. Be gentle with the rubbing as you are sending the device inside your body. A rough approach can injure the internal muscles and make the whole experience extremely painful.
You may feel little discomfort initially. But as you continue doing it, you will gradually get to experience some truly rewarding and unforgettable moments.
Hopefully, you’ve have decided that Male Chastity is for you and you are ready to take the next steps! If you have, you will find this male chastity guide Beneficial to getting started on this pleasurable path. You and your partner will be pleased with the results. Believe me!
The First thing that you are going to want to do is make sure that you understand what exactly this lifestyle is all about. Many people assume that it is anti-sex, and that is false. It’s just simply about having amazing sex with your partner. There are a variety of belts that you can choose from such as: plastic devices, metal tubes, or even piercings.
People don’t want to get into male chastity because they may think that people will be able to tell that the belt is on. That is not true. The male Chastity belts are made to not be seen with clothes on. I would just advise men to not wear tight pants, then you might have the chance of showing.
Another Myth that people think is Male Chastity is unhealthy for your man. The man may encounter prostate problems if he doesn’t ejaculate every few weeks, but with your help there is a way he can expel his fluids, while still in his device, without climaxing. This way you both will be pleased and your man will remain healthy!
One of the most asked questions is “What is the use of a male chastity belt, if he can get it off easily.” That is False. Chastity Belts are made so that they can only be taken off by a medical professional. There are spikes in the belts too, so if he tried to take it off he would be in a lot of pain.
Hopefully, these myths and facts have shown you that this is a really fun lifestyle to get into, and it is not so harmful as people put it off to be. In my experiences, I’ve found it to be pleasurable and exciting. I am having the best time of my life, and I encourage you too!
First of all, it should be said that if you are worried about having a partner who talks to you about his desires and his interest in chastity, you have no need to be worried. Certain men (a lot even ;-), like giving control of their sexuality to their partner, while others like to control their partner and preciously guard the key.
Couples who experience male chastity tend to find improvement in their relationships in a profound and lasting way. The entire couple is involved with male chastity. I‘m going to tell you how chastity favors well-being in a couple. In reading these few paragraphs on male chastity, you will develop an understanding of why a man wants to be chaste and why this significantly improves relations in a couple.
There are only two reasons that push a couple to choose male chastity. The first one, to improve relations with one’s partner; the second, to improve your life and share pleasurable, rich and intense moments.
Spend some time in your relationship before using a chastity device. To start, explain to him in advance that you want him to satisfy you sexually, but that you will not allow him to reach orgasm.
The first time, you will certainly feel a bit intimidated by the circumstances, but with time, and in seeing your partner take pleasure in satisfying you, you will quickly understand your advantages and you will become more self-confident. You may also tell him that if he does his job well, you will allow him to reach orgasm tomorrow.
Once this first step has been completed and if you feel at ease and you observe that everything is fine between you, you may start having him wear a chastity device. (Preferably a HolyTrainer model, of course 😉
Once your partner is locked in a chastity device, I advise you to adopt a firm attitude towards him. The chastity device reminds him at all times that he is under your control. He will expect you to make suggestions explicitly. He will have the task of executing to your satisfaction, and in order to obtain the forthcoming release. So don’t hesitate to have guidelines and to share your desires with him.
You must be clear about the fact that he consented to your idea or that he approached you to ask that you manage his sexuality. It’s necessary to always remain firm about your shared commitments.
If one day he asks you to remove his chastity device to reach orgasm, he will also want to be rebuffed and teased. So, don’t hesitate to refuse but offer a future date so that he can fully satisfy you until then.
Placement of the chastity device
If you are new to chastity, I advise you to ask your partner to put the chastity device on you. However, be sure to keep the padlock close at hand. You must close the device with the padlock so that the little click, the noise produced by the lock when it is closed, marks the start of his “chaste period”. Starting from this moment, it must be clear for both of you that he is under your control.
I also advise you to always keep the keys on you. You must make him understand that you are the keeper of his freedom and that this could happen at any time. As a safety measure, I advise you to put a duplicate of the key in a hidden envelope so that, in case of emergency, he can remove the chastity device.
Periods for testing and becoming accustomed
Make sure that you can tolerate the chastity device by first closing it for 1 day, then 1 day and 1 night, then 2 or 3 days. Once these steps have been completed, make sure that there are no problems of pinching or burns on the skin. If everything is in order, you may then begin chastity for longer periods.
If the device is worn for a long period, it will be necessary to clean the penis regularly. You will not need to open the chastity device because a small amount of soap and the shower sprayer, that splashes water around in the device, will be sufficient. All the same, make sure to dry the penis well using a hair dryer because it is not advisable for the skin to remain humid. However, once a week it will be necessary to remove the chastity device in order to clean it well. If you do not want him to be able to touch his penis during this weekly cleaning, I advise you to bind his hands behind his back during the operation. The sensation of being released from his device without the power to touch himself will cause even more frustration for a man.
Don’t forget that for good physical hygiene, a man must empty his prostate gland regularly. It enlarges over time to produce a liquid that allows sperm to move freely. This gland, which does not contain sperm, has to be emptied in order to avoid prostatic hypertrophy. The time interval between each evacuation is specific to each man but, personally, I think that once a week is sufficient to offer total safety in this regard. If you do not want to authorize intercourse or masturbation, a man can empty his liquid through the urethra by simply massaging the prostate using a prostate massager. The advantage of this technique is that the man can empty this gland without reaching orgasm and without any sensation of pleasure, while also remaining enclosed in his chastity device.
The psychological aspect of male chastity
You will quickly notice a change of attitude in the chaste man. He will be more attentive and will not grumble about helping you with household tasks. He will treat you like a prince(ess) and will be attentive to you. If these changes please you, don’t forget to adjust your behavior towards him. Have a firm and directive attitude focused on your well-being and your sexual fulfillment. Once you are controlling his sexuality through cages, his principal preoccupation will be to be at your service. Don’t leave him in his armchair in front of the television. Give him directives such as cleaning up the kitchen, preparing a bath for you, waiting for you in the bed to give you a massage or simply to warm your bed (very practical in winter!). Don’t be bothered about giving orders and remind him that if you are not satisfied you will leave his device on for a longer period. This is very simple to implement.
Male chastity can bring a lot more to your couple that you may think at first glance. It’s an enriching lifestyle for you and your partner. Don’t forget that it’s up to you to make this time pleasant and constructive. If you control his sexuality, adopt a firm attitude and don’t hesitate to tell him what you’re expecting from him and how he can satisfy you. If you have given control to your partner, show this person love every day, be in a good mood and courteous and make sure that your partner lacks nothing. The day of the next release is approaching with the passage of each hour!